|My kids hanging out together before heading off to school.|
So here is my outline of our normal parenting
- Our kids play outside often. We encourage it and, actually, expect it.
- Our kids watch cartoons like Spiderman, not just learning cartoons.
- Our kids have to eat what we cook. Occasionally, we ask what they would like, but if they don't want what we made - tough. No dinner for You.
- Our kids are discliplined. That doesn't mean they don't misbehave, cause, Ugh, they do. But they get a combo of all the various punishments - timeouts (used like they are intended - a timeout to get your self under control), vinegar in the mouth (don't call the cops, vinegar is actually Good for you), spankings, jerk ups, fussing ats, all followed with conversations about decision making, hugs, kisses, and apologies.
- Our kids have to say mam and sir. Period.
- Our kids are expected to go with the flow. Our life did not begin when they were born, and it doesn't revolve around them now. Are they the best things in our life? Yes! Do we want them growing up thinking they are the Center of the universe? Hell no.
- Our kids are expected to do for themselves and help out. Take your plate to the sink. Feed the dog. Put your shoes up. Clean up your toys. Two year olds can do all of this.
- Our kids are expected to be a part of a family. We are a team, and we love and look out for each other. Always.
- Our kids are expected to share and not freak out when things don't go their way.
- We do not believe they are more special than other children. We do not expect them to be treated that way.
- We expect them to learn about everything.
- We expect them to be creative and learn to play with dirt and a stick if that is all they have.
- We watch movies in the car on trips longer than 30 minutes. We talk on the way to school and on the way home.
- We honor that each child is different, and do not expect them to be carbon copies of each other.
(Side note - the word normal seems to look and sound strange after saying it so many times)